I have, in recent months, given a lot of thought to my friendships... circumstances have forced me to do so. I've asked myself questions like... Is this a friendship of which I need to let go? Is this other friendship one for which I should fight, for which I should work? Yesterday's entry, "Dear Friend," is a letter to a friend with whom I am not reconciled... There are unsaid things between us, and that's probably how it will remain... I don't really know what to do with that, but it's out of my hands... I've done all I know to do to try to make things right. I need to let that friendship go, and writing that letter yesterday is somehow helping me do that.
One of the cool things about marriage is that you have a lifetime (hopefully) to get to know each other... There is a comfort that has worked its way into my relationship with my husband. But that can be one of the hardest things about marriage, too... There is no bailing... It's a lifetime commitment... a lifelong covenant. There is and will be a "beauty of seeing things through."
I don't know if Sara Groves wrote the lyrics to the song below about a marriage relationship or a friendship or what... I think it could be about both. There is a "beauty of seeing things through" in friendships, too. The only place I've lived longer than where I live now is the town in which I grew up. During almost six years of living in the same place, I now have some friends who have seen me at my best... and my worst... and I've seen the same in them. We have a history together. Significant parts of our stories are woven together. There have been occasions where I've been astounded by their awesomeness and other times where I've been so hurt and disappointed and confused by their words and actions that I've wanted to walk away and never ever look back. But had I done that, I would have missed a ton of "beauty in seeing things through."
Loving a Person
by Sara Groves
Loving a person just the way they are, it's no small thing
It takes some time to see things through
Sometimes things change, sometimes we're waiting
We need grace either way
Hold on to me
I'll hold on to you
Let's find out the beauty of seeing things through
There's a lot of pain in reaching out and trying
It's a vulnerable place to be
Love and pride can't occupy the same spaces baby
Only one makes you free
Hold on to me
I'll hold on to you
Let's find out the beauty of seeing things through
If we go looking for offense
We're going to find it
If we go looking for real love
We're going to find it
Hold on to me
I'll hold on to you
Let's find out the beauty of seeing things through
Loving a person just the way they are, it's no small thing
That's the whole thing
Loving me just the way I am, it's no small thing
It takes some time
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I love this song. And I agree, there is a difficult beauty to seeing things through.
ReplyDeletei am now a follower. i never signed in to be an "official follower" of the mobius -old web page. but now i'm hooked. i must admit it hurts me to read entries like that tho (as a sister i hate to know that someone hurt you like that -past or present) but i appreciate your honesty and genuine approach
ReplyDeletei also hate that there have been times in the past where i've been oblivious to situations that were going on around me and didn't know that you needed help or support.
I think I've witnessed a seeing things through in our pastor that I've never seen in any other person. It seems like God has given him a huge capacity to see our faults and not allow it to taint his opinion of us. Amazing love.
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